As you already know, I’m a life coach focusing on empowerment. I pepper empowering posts throughout my blog, along with the usual lifestyle topics, to remind you that I’m here and I totally get it. As a life coach, one of the most common goals I see among clients is to be happier, and ya know what? I get it. Life isn’t always sunshine and roses but if you’re a happy person, it’s easier to manage the speed bumps along the way.
FIVE TIPS TO BE A HAPPY PERSON
1. ACCEPT YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE
I’m going to assume you read my previous article on accepting yourself. (If you haven’t read that article yet, go do that now. I’ll wait here.) So now that you’ve put in the work and accept yourself warts and all, you can really appreciate yourself, your quirks and how you react to life. Once you accept yourself, you’ll no longer see yourself as a failure. You’ll be able to differentiate between difficult situations and yourself failing at something.
I’ve been there, you guys. There was a period in my life where I thought I was a failure because I wasn’t where I thought I would be back when I was a teenager. But guess what? Although I’m not at all the person I thought I’d be, I’m not a failure. I’m a happy and true version of myself and there is nothing wrong with my path!
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2. ELIMINATE OR LIMIT TOXIC PEOPLE
I’ve written before on how to identify toxic people and what you can do about it but what I didn’t mention was how much happier you’ll be once you put some boundaries in place! There are so many benefits to this, but today, let’s just focus on how much happier you’ll be. If you’ve ever known the sense of dread that washes over you when you see a text or missed call from a toxic person, this is for you.
Once you eliminate that person from your life, your stress level reduces. It isn’t instantaneous and there may be a little bit of guilt at the beginning, but you will see the benefits in the long term. One day soon, you’ll feel lighter and you’ll realize it’s because the joy-stealer is gone.
3. STOP THE GLORIFICATION OF BUSY
We all know at least one person who has to list all the things they’re busy doing, every time we talk to them. Take a step back and check if that person is you. If it is, let’s talk about how to put the kibosh on the glorification of busy.
Busyness is a guard people put up against emptiness. I mean, life can’t possibly be meaningless and empty if you’re so busy all the time, right? Wrong. Life can’t possibly be meaningless and empty because you’re amazing and you matter. You are not your appointments or busy schedule. You are you, and I’m your biggest fan!
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4. PRACTICE GRATITUDE
Dude, I know I keep telling you this, but I’m serious. The happiness factor once you start practicing gratitude is off the charts! You begin to be more optimistic. I mean, things are going to work out because look how many things have worked out to get you to where you are, right?
“Attitude of gratitude” is one of my favorite terms and not just because I love things that rhyme. Gratitude shifts your perspective and suddenly, things are terrible. If you haven’t already, grab the gratitude journal to get started with this. Trust me when I tell you, it’s worth the few minutes each day.
5. KEEP A JOURNAL
You know how when you’re going through a rough patch, it feels like the worst thing you’ve EVER experienced? If you keep a journal, it’s not only easier to handle your struggles, it’s easier to keep things in perspective.
With journaling, downloading all of your thoughts onto paper is INSTANT stress relief (see more on that here). Stress comes in when you view everything as a disaster, right? Through your journal, question yourself as to why you view it as such and how you can work around. But don’t only journal the negative! Use your journal for gratitude as well. It will help you keep a balanced perspective when you review old entries later.
TO SUM UP: RELIEVE STRESS
You probably figured out the common thread, right? Relieve stress and become happier. It isn’t more complicated than that, I promise.
Remember, stress is caused by the view you take of the events in your life, not the events themselves. When you’re feeling stressed, take a mindful moment and consider other ways to react to the events around you. You may not be able to change the issue, but you can change how you’re reacting to it.
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Do you have a trick to relieve stress? Tell me in the comments below!